This was suddenly the cutest conversation he'd had in his life and he had to cover his mouth to hide his smile. When he'd composed himself, he lowered his hand again.]
But Jin Ling's uncles sometimes joked at banquets about taking the courtesans to bed to sleep with them. The Jin clan is known for being promiscuous and shameless. That's what they're talking about right?
No, I have a feeling they actually were talking about sex. Sleeping with someone can have more than one meaning. The actual one or the innuendo. You did the literal meaning with the boy you like.
[He shifts so he can make himself comfortable before he goes on.]
Would you like me to explain how sex really works between two men?
When you use an innocent word to mean something not so innocent as a hint of what you're implying.
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I don't think that it would be wrong to talk about. It will be good for you two to know this for the future. Your clan is very conservative but I think it's important you understand the basics of what sex is at least. How it works.
[No Lan ever would be okay talking about this! The only person he thinks might is Wei Wuxian and that would just be too awkward. (He was bound to give a demonstration or something terribly vulgar!).]
Okay.. if you're sure you don't mind and I'm not disgracing you for asking.
[It's odd to be learning something he'll likely never be allowed to do. He knew he was attracted to men, but if his clan needed him to produce children he'd have to be with a woman. (Ick). He belonged body and soul to his clan, so what could he do? Would he be able to do what the Jades have done?
Finally he pulls away from those depressing thoughts to give his brother his full attention.]
Okay.
welcome to sex ed everyone reading past this point...
I'm sure that you have noticed that as your body matured you started to find attraction to men. And that at times when thinking about them your... [Hmmm...perhaps he should keep this more clinical to help his brother out.] ...penis would get hard. That is what is known as arousal. It's an important thing you need for sex.
When two men are interested in each other and ready to have sex with each other, that will be a very clear sign that both men are ready to begin. Does that make sense so far?
No, it's not impolite. It's a natural reaction that your body has. It's a sign that you have reached physical maturity and are ready to be physically intimate with another person. To have sex.
[Okay, to the next part.]
When two men are having sex with each other this physical reaction will happen. To go from there they will touch each other and kiss. It's difficult to explain how but instinct will tell you what feels right when the time happens. Then clothes will be removed until both men are completely naked together.
[The mental image of a certain someone with a cute black rabbit tail pops in his head and his brain almost stops working. Okay, no lie. He does kind of want that to happen.
He just has to shut up and listen and then maybe he'll know what to do.]
It's usually easier and feels better if it's completely.
[Required? No. But he can say that it helps.]
Now this is the part where one of the men will take lead. He will use a lubricant of some kind and pour that onto his fingers. Once both men are in a position they are comfortable in the one taking the lead will prepare the other. Are you following me so far? This next part may take a moment to explain properly.
Whoever feels right honestly. Some people are naturally more suited to one or the other. Others can switch between them. I'd recommend asking your partner if you're unsure of what you want.
It's different for everyone. Some people are more comfortable talking with their partners ahead of time to find out what both people are comfortable with. Others just jump right in and ask questions as needed along the way. There's no real rules to sex. It's one of the reasons people enjoy it. The liberating freedom it provides.
[That explains why some of this is so confusing. He does wonder though if Sizhui would have any rules personally. Jingyi doesn't think he has any, but he's never thought about it before either.]
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Oh dear.
This was suddenly the cutest conversation he'd had in his life and he had to cover his mouth to hide his smile. When he'd composed himself, he lowered his hand again.]
A-Yi, may I ask what you know about sex?
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I just told you. It's when two adults share a bed. I know Sizhui and I aren't quite adults yet, but.. we're not children either.
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Not.. exactly. Well.. once we got to bed, that's all we did. But um.. before I uh.. I kissed him. Don't make fun of me er-ge!!
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I'm not making fun of you. I promise. But I can promise you that you two haven't had sex yet. The kiss is very sweet though.
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[He pauses to think about that.]
But Jin Ling's uncles sometimes joked at banquets about taking the courtesans to bed to sleep with them. The Jin clan is known for being promiscuous and shameless. That's what they're talking about right?
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[He shifts so he can make himself comfortable before he goes on.]
Would you like me to explain how sex really works between two men?
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[The offer surprises him.]
Isn't it wrong to be talking about it? Like.. maybe I'm not supposed to know about it.
[Though now that they were talking about it, he is curious! He's just sure he's going to get in trouble.]
I think they tell you after they arrange your marriage. Maybe?
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[Basically.]
I don't think that it would be wrong to talk about. It will be good for you two to know this for the future. Your clan is very conservative but I think it's important you understand the basics of what sex is at least. How it works.
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[He considers his er-ge's advice. He's slowly warming to the idea, except he needs a little more reassurance.]
Are you sure I shouldn't ask my shifu first?
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[Because he's under the impression that a lot of people from Jingyi's world might not be...]
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[No Lan ever would be okay talking about this! The only person he thinks might is Wei Wuxian and that would just be too awkward. (He was bound to give a demonstration or something terribly vulgar!).]
Okay.. if you're sure you don't mind and I'm not disgracing you for asking.
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I don't mind. I'll go slow and you can ask me as many questions as you want. And I'll stick to just explaining for two men right now, okay?
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Finally he pulls away from those depressing thoughts to give his brother his full attention.]
Okay.
welcome to sex ed everyone reading past this point...
I'm sure that you have noticed that as your body matured you started to find attraction to men. And that at times when thinking about them your... [Hmmm...perhaps he should keep this more clinical to help his brother out.] ...penis would get hard. That is what is known as arousal. It's an important thing you need for sex.
When two men are interested in each other and ready to have sex with each other, that will be a very clear sign that both men are ready to begin. Does that make sense so far?
All the deets!
Jingyi's blush darkens furiously.]
That's supposed to happen? But.. it's so impolite!
big bro got this!
No, it's not impolite. It's a natural reaction that your body has. It's a sign that you have reached physical maturity and are ready to be physically intimate with another person. To have sex.
[Okay, to the next part.]
When two men are having sex with each other this physical reaction will happen. To go from there they will touch each other and kiss. It's difficult to explain how but instinct will tell you what feels right when the time happens. Then clothes will be removed until both men are completely naked together.
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[The mental image of a certain someone with a cute black rabbit tail pops in his head and his brain almost stops working. Okay, no lie. He does kind of want that to happen.
He just has to shut up and listen and then maybe he'll know what to do.]
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[Required? No. But he can say that it helps.]
Now this is the part where one of the men will take lead. He will use a lubricant of some kind and pour that onto his fingers. Once both men are in a position they are comfortable in the one taking the lead will prepare the other. Are you following me so far? This next part may take a moment to explain properly.
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H- how do you know which one should do that?
[Who normally takes the lead? Was it him or was it Sizhui? Was this something the oldest is supposed to do? Or tallest.. or..]
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Does that help?
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[That sounds so awkward! Of course, all of this does.]
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[He thinks about that question for a moment.]
It's different for everyone. Some people are more comfortable talking with their partners ahead of time to find out what both people are comfortable with. Others just jump right in and ask questions as needed along the way. There's no real rules to sex. It's one of the reasons people enjoy it. The liberating freedom it provides.
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[That explains why some of this is so confusing. He does wonder though if Sizhui would have any rules personally. Jingyi doesn't think he has any, but he's never thought about it before either.]
How do you know if you're doing it right?
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[He smiles at him.]
Do you want me to keep going?
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